fix lora target module, require explicit flash attention, fix min logging steps, don't use adam8bit for int4, hash prepared datasets, support hf hub datasets

4bit quantized support (wip)

deepspeed doesn't work with flash-attn, and the gpu savings w flash attn are better than the deepspeed headaches

add llama 7b config and fiz lora_fan_in_fan_out for llama (copy pasta bug)